Life And Lessons
I was 8 years old. The driver had come to pick my siblings (my younger brother and my elder sister) and I from school before lunch break. We knew it was very unusual, the driver wouldn’t say why (he had been warned not to) and we had started to imagine different reasons we were being taken home so early.
As the driver drove into the car park area, I noticed several cars parked there too, I recognized a few and my younger brother who was 7 at that time exclaimed, “we are having a surprise party” we laughed it off, and we were still laughing when we got into the living room. In an instant, my happy face turned sad, as I looked around, saw familiar faces but they were all in tears, everyone in the room was crying. I saw my dad crying too. They hadn’t noticed our arrival.
Instinctively, I started to scan the room to see who was missing, oh no! my Mum was not in the room. Oh no! Maybe she is in the restroom, but why are they all crying? As I turned to go look for my mum, my aunt held me back and hugged me so tightly, not saying anything but just crying. At that moment, I knew, Mom was gone. Oh! How I wailed, I was as though someone had stabbed me in the heart! I screamed, No! It’s not true! I let myself off my aunt’s grip and ran around the house looking for my mom. I checked everywhere, I even looked under the bed to see if she was playing some tricks on me, it had to be, she couldn’t be gone so soon without saying goodbye. I was hysterical! I have not been able to adequately describe the pain. Up until then, she was my everything. And I knew from that moment, that things would never be the same again.
And it was so! You see, my mom was the chord that held loads of things together. She was strong! She was always there for family, for friends, neighbours. She was the “Go To’’ person but she was gone so lots of things fell apart.
Dad’s business began to gradually take a dip, we lost contact with family members and we were on our own. My siblings and I. My dad tried to fill in the space but he was clueless on a lot of things, it could never be like Mom. My dad thought re-marrying would be the best thing, maybe someone could take care of the kids, but it was his worst move ever. The woman made our lives so miserable, she nearly killed us. She eventually moved out.
I missed out on a lot of things. It was even worse for me because I was an extreme introvert who was forced to grow up so quickly, yet, I was so immature on a lot of things.
Puberty, Boys, Relationships, The Female Anatomy, Financial Management, etc. In all of these, I had no sense... Everyone assumed I should know but I didn’t and I was also too introverted to ask for help, and we had not entered the Internet age so I could not “google things up” but gradually, I picked up, and I am still learning what I should have known several years ago.
Funny how the absence of a human in your life, can change the direction or cause of ones destiny. But I am much older now, and wiser too, my Dad, Siblings and I are doing very well